“I no longer have patience for certain things, not because I’ve become arrogant, but simply because I reached a point in my life where I do not want to waste more time with what displeases me or hurts me. I have no patience for cynicism, excessive criticism and demands of any nature. I lost the will to please those who do not like me, to love those who do not love me and to smile at those who do not want to smile at me. I no longer spend a single minute on those who lie or want to manipulate. I decided not to coexist anymore with pretense, hypocrisy, dishonesty and cheap praise. I do not tolerate selective erudition nor academic arrogance. I do not adjust either to popular gossiping. I hate conflict and comparisons. I believe in a world of opposites and that’s why I avoid people with rigid and inflexible personalities. In friendship I dislike the lack of loyalty and betrayal. I do not get along with those who do not know how to give a compliment or a word of encouragement. Exaggerations bore me and I have difficulty accepting those who do not like animals. And on top of everything I have no patience for anyone who does not deserve my patience.” – Meryl Streep
I’ve seen this quote/article going viral in social media today and it really hit me hard. Big time. I’d like to think I am half way there. I am practicing the “art of dedma“, most of the time. But of course, there are times that I still can’t stop myself from caring, from saying my piece. I still react to things/situations by instinct, and most of the time, harshly. Which makes matters worse, really.
But then again, I feel that if I just keep quiet then I’ve already accepted defeat. (and I am not one to back down, I tell ya.)
I had a conversation with Mr. A a few weeks back. I was telling him about another conversation I was having with a friend. I wanted to get his opinion on the matter. (Thinking about it now, it was not his opinion I am after but rather his validation that I do have a point and that I am right … hehe, narcissistic much?) Of course, Mr. A did not side with me nor with the other friend (so typical of him!). He is very objective like that. — yes hon, I am praising you on the blog. LOL!
One thing he said that made me shut up was :
“Did you lose anything when you weren’t able to answer back?” (Not sure if I translated it right… medyo mahirap sya ha!)
I had an AHA! moment right there. Why should I bother insisting my point when clearly this other person is closed-minded?
And just like Queen Elsa, I have to learn to : Let it go. Let it Go!